Tiger Woods scandal update - pictures, Jamie Grubbs, Rachel Uchitel

Just when I thought this was no longer a Google Trend, it's back hotter than ever, and as of this writing listed "Volcanic". The latest Tiger Woods scandal update has news about mistress Rachel Uchitel and the assumed payoff from Woods, one publications' need to dig into the past of the other mistress, Jamie Grubbs, and new pictures.

First, TMZ reports that Tiger Woods never paid off Rachel Uchitel to stop the press conference that was scheduled to be held Thursday. The news counters RadarOnline.com's assertion that Woods did pay Uchitel.

Rachel Uchitel

Uchitel reportedly called the press conference off Wednesday, after a long talk with Woods and his people because of her concern for her safety. Apparently she knows "too much" about Woods with other women and other personal details such that a news conference would have at the very least started a massive public PR battle between Rachel and Tiger.

TMZ's sources explain that Rachel's not afraid of Tiger Woods, but is concerned about how other people not named would be impacted by what she said. So Rachel's just going to go into hiding for a while. Let's hope her personal safety is maintained. Having something negative happen to her after that disclosure would only reopen the scandal as a criminal investigation and that would be massively bad for Tiger Woods.

Massively bad is the sudden negative press Woods other girlfriend Jamie Grubbs is getting today. CBS News.com has a new set of pictures and information about Jamie Grubbs "criminal record" posted on its Crimeinsider website.

Why "Crimeinsider"? Because EOnline reports Grubbs was arrested for shoplifting a coat in 2004 and a credit card balance EOnline says she didn't pay (which is dangerous territory to wade into because such issues are generally resolved). It seems to me that EOnline think's it's ok to defame Jamie Grubbs character and I'm guessing the reason is that some PR effort has been launched to attack her.

For example, RadarOnline reports that Grubbs recently worked in a medical marijuana "pharmacy." Reporting that is also wrong-headed because the next question is did Tiger take a medicinal toke?

Why all the negative press about Grubbs?

Because unlike Rachel Uchitel and Kamile Moquin who didn't talk about their Woods encounters, Jamie Grubbs was rumored to have received $150,000 by US Weekly to talk about her affair and turn over the now infamous voicemail recording of Tiger Woods asking her to take her name off her phone.

Jamie Grubbs' action torpedoed Tiger Woods' public image in a way that the Thanksgiving night accident had not. But, in a day when millions of people, including me and Paris Hilton, have DUIs, I'm not sure what good dishing on her so-called "record" will do and it could open EOnline and RadarOnline to a lawsuit from Jamie Grubbs.

Yikes.

If you're looking for revealing photos of Jamie Grubbs and visit the site with that objective, you're going to get punked because there's nothing special or revealing about them. But if you have to go there to see for yourself, click here, then come back here.

Reports: Woods offered $80 million prenup to Elin

Meanwhile, reports are surfacing, starting with New York Magazine, that Tiger Woods offered his wife Elin Nordegren an $80 million revised prenuptial agreement. Finally, in what would certainly be a show with ratings to blow away those gained when she had Sarah Palin as a guest, Oprah Winfrey's reaching out to Tiger to come and talk.

Stay tuned.  As I said in a vlog, this story will last for another week.  

Did Stanford Coach Jim Harbaugh use the F-word?

That Stanford Cardinal Football Coach Jim Harbaugh would be one of YouTube's first results in its brand-new "Trending Topics" feature was interesting to me. So I started searching on YouTube, found nothing, then checked Google News and saw a brewing controversy.

Jim Harbaugh

Some claim Jim Harbaugh used the F-word, and I'm not talking about the word that refers to sex. The other one that has to do with sexual orientation.

Allegedly Harbaugh yelled some choice words at game officials during the Stanford - Notre Dame contest that the Cardinal won 45 to 38. Now it's common for coaches to lose it and yell something at an official - it's expected in our culture. So from that perspective Harbaugh's rant was standard issue.

But the assertion is Harbaugh did more than just rant, where a coach complains about a call, but he called a name to an official, the F-word. It's something, this issue, that's been hidden from wide view. From reading the dates of the posts about this controversy, its been around for almost two days but only gay-oriented sites have covered it, even though it's on Google News under "jim harbaugh." Until now, no mainstream media site or straight-person's blog picked up the story, so I figured this straight-guy who has a blog and blogs at mainstream media sites would put it out there.

Ok, house cleaning out of the way, what proof is there that Harbaugh got off such a blast? Well, if you discount the self-proclaimed lip-reading bloggers, none, and here I'm wading into dangerous territory because the feelings on this are rightly powerful. Any slur is a bad one, but one must make sure there are several sources that can claim what the blogger asserts, as I had in the LeGarrett Blount issue.

I think Towleroad blog went too far in making an assertion that Harbaugh made the statement and basing that blog post on a video of the coach yelling without the sound.

But the problem that gives fuel to the issue is the video itself was just made private by its maker! So we can't see the video a second time. That in itself is really suspicious and now adds smoke to this story. The video should have remained available.

For Harbaugh, he asserts he did not use the term. Outsports reports that Harbaugh said:

It did not come out of my mouth. It would not come out of my mouth. It’s not in my heart to ever say that.

That's enough for me here. We have coach Harbaugh who says he didn't say it, and a video that really doesn't prove he said it.

The person who started all of this was a guy named Chris Finley who made the video and guessed at what was said. That was enough to cause a small controversy.

Time out. It seems to me some people are just knee-jerk ready to find fault with others and so much so that they will make up a story without hard evidence. That's got to stop. From my experience Coach Harbaugh's a good man who would not have a negative thought about someone based on race or sexual orientation.

Jim Harbaugh's only problem in the eyes of this Cal Alum is that he coaches the Stanford Cardinal Football Team.

Oregon v. Oregon State today; Cal v. Stanford in 2010

Congratulations to the Pac-10 Champion Oregon Ducks, who won a trip to the 2010 Rose Bowl after defeating Oregon State, 37 to 33 in their "Civil War" played Thursday night.

Oregon came back from a shocking season-opening loss to Boise State and the LeGarrett Blount name-calling incident to hammer Cal and USC before running into a Stanford Cardinal team that seemed Rose Bowl-bound until it was stopped by the sturdy Golden Bear.

That the Oregon / Oregon State rivalry ended in a fitting contest for all the marbles means that in 2010 The Cal / Stanford Big Game's next. And of course Cal will march to the Rose Bowl.

But until that happens, we have to look at videos of the Oregon v. Oregon State game and watch Oregon fans and students storm their field.

National Board of Review Awards - Up In The Air, Best Film; Precious snubbed

The first awards show of the Oscar season brings a surprise. The National Board of Review selected Up In The Air, the romantic travel story featuring George Clooney, as Best Film, but snubbed the controversial domestic violence story that is Precious.

Precious by Lionsgate Films

And as the Academy Awards will have 10 Best Picture nominees, the NBOR's provides a glimpse of what might happen in March with this Top Ten Film List:

An Education, 500 Days Of Summer, The Hurt Locker, Inglorious Basterds, Invicus, The Messenger, A Serious Man, Star Trek, Up, Where The Wild Things Are.

The surprise here is that Precious did not make the Top Ten list, but Star Trek did.
 
Star Trek was projected as a film that would be marketed as an Oscar contender and this awards outcome is the first proof that Paramount's tenpole movie of 2009 may also have that Oscar luster.

But that written, the films to watch for have multiple awards: Up In The Air with Best Picture, Best Actor, Best Supporting Actress, and Best Adapted Screenplay awards; Clint Eastwoods' Invictus, a film of sports and freedom in South Africa, won Best Director, Top Ten, and the NBOR's Freedom of Expression award; The Messenger earned Best Supporting Actor for Woody Harrelson and made the Top Ten list, and a Spotlight Award for Best Directorial Debut for Oren Moverman; An Education also made the Top Ten list and Carey Mulligan took home Best Actress award.

But what happened to Precious and why is it not in the Top Ten List?

I think it has a lot to do with the New York City film community, the very same that snubbed Precious during the Gotham Awards in October.

Opray Winfrey's support aside, I thought good pictures were supposed to shake you up and make you think and "be real" and Precious did all that. I'm beginning to believe that, at least in New York City, that film community was not ready for a hard core story about African American domestic violence in America.  But given the range of views I've gathered about Precious, it may be a hard film for anyone to take regardless of race or region; still, it's one of the top nominees in The Independent Sprit Awards, so one storyline during awards season will be if Precious can weather its storm of controversy and emerge with at least an Oscar... or any award. 

Precious aside, a pattern of front runners is slowly emerging as we head toward the 82nd Academy Awards with the top award winners being Up In The Air, Invictus, An Education and The Messenger.

Here's the full list of NBOR winners:

Best Film: Up In The Air

Best Director: Clint Eastwood, Invictus

Best Actor: Morgan Freeman, Invictus and George Clooney, Up In The Air (tie)

Best Actress: Carey Mulligan, An Education

Best Supporting Actor: Woody Harrelson, The Messenger

Best Supporting Actress: Anna Kendrick, Up In The Air

Best Foreign Film: A Prophet

Best Documentary: The Cove

Best Animated Feature: Up

Best Ensemble Cast: It’s Complicated

Breakthrough Performance by an Actor: Jeremy Renner, The Hurt Locker

Breakthrough Performance by an Actress: Gabourey Sidibe, Precious

Spotlight Award for Best Directorial Debut: Duncan Jones, Moon, Oren Moverman, The Messenger and Marc Webb, 500 Days of Summer (tie)

Best Original Screenplay: Joel & Ethan Coen, A Serious Man

Best Adapted Screenplay: Jason Reitman and Sheldon Turner, Up In The Air

Special Filmmaking Achievement Award: Wes Anderson, The Fantastic Mr. Fox

William K. Everson Film History Award: Jean Picker Firstenberg

Top Ten Independent Films (In alphabetical order):
Amreeka
District 9
Goodbye Solo
Humpday
In The Loop
Julia
Me And Orson Welles
Moon
Sugar
Two Lovers

NBR Freedom of Expression: Burma Vj: Reporting From A Closed Country, Invictus, The Most Dangerous Man In America: Daniel Ellseberg And The Pentagon Papers


Top Six Foreign Films (In alphabetical order):
The Maid
A Prophet
Revanche
Song Of Sparrows
Three Monkeys
The White Ribbon

Top Six Documentary Films (In alphabetical order):
Burma Vj: Reporting From A Closed Country
The Cove
Crude
Food, Inc.
Good Hair
The Most Dangerous Man In America: Daniel Ellsberg And The Pentagon Papers

Tiger Woods scandal - Tiger Woods Voicemail Remix a new song

The Tiger Woods Scandal has sparked an online creative streak with content producers making jokes and photoshopped pictures. But this new song takes the cake. It's called Tiger Woods Voicemail Slow Jam Remix.

Tiger Woods Voicemail Slow Jam Remix is based on the voicemail allegedly left by Tiger Woods for Jaimie Grubbs asking her to take her name off her phone before his wife called her. Produced by HalfDayToday, it was distributed via Twitter and YouTube and blogs and now has gone viral.

MSNBCs David Shuster picked it up on Twitter as has The Huffington Post, BoingBoing, and now my blogs! The video, created by Trevor Cushman with the video by Al LeVine, has this description:

Tiger Woods knows how to treat a lady right. Here’s a sexy song to prove it.

It's a creative mix of the voicemail, sultry music, and added voices. A combinations of the Tiger Woods sound with a little El Debarge thrown in.

Nice.

Half Day Today is an LA-based New Media Organization specializing in comedy and viral videos. What I'm impressed with is the speed with which they turned out this remix, just about 24 hours from the release of the voicemail. Well done.

JETS IN TORONTO TO FACE BILLS: PLAYOFF HOPES STILL ALIVE

JETS IN TORONTO TO FACE BILLS: PLAYOFF HOPES STILL ALIVE
by TJ Rosenthal for Football Reporters Online

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The NY Jets saved their season last Sunday against Carolina with a 17-6 win.
That win will mean nothing if Gang Green can't continue a much needed win streak 
that includes  tough AFC East battle with the Buffalo Bills in Toronto tonight. It's Thursday night football. A short week to prepare followed by either a happy long layoff before week 14, or the realization that postseason dreams will be all but
 over.

For the Jets , RB Thomas Jones will be a key factor tonight. The Newark Star Ledger reported this week that Jones is second only to the Chargers LaDanian Tomlinson in yardage gained since 2005. An impressive stat for a humble guy. 
For the Jets to go to 6-6, he'll need to add to that tonight against Buffalo, a team that owns the league worst  32nd ranked rushing defense. Can QB Mark Sanchez's color coded bracelet minimize the interceptions for a second straight week? It better. Sanchez threw five interceptions in the Jets previous meeting with the Bills.
A sickening  week six OT loss that also saw NG run killer Kris Jenkins injure his knee and thus become lost for the season.

The 4-7 Bills are a different team since the last time the Jets faced them. Head coach Dick Jauron is gone, fired weeks ago in favor of interim Perry Fewell. Fewell got his first NFL coaching win last week at home against Miami. This thanks to the resurgence of WR Terrell Owens, who credits his recent hot play to the new starter QB Ryan Fitzpatrick. Owens said this week that the relationship between himself and former starter Trent Edwards simply was not there. RBFred Jackson has supplanted Marshawn Lynch as the starter as well. Lynch who started the year serving a three game league suspension, has yet to find a rythym in 2009.

With Tampa Bay on the schedule next before a tough finish against Atlanta, undefeated Indy, and the first place Bengals, the Jets are in position to make the stretch drive interesting. This is as big of a game as a 5-6 team can have. Let's call
it a playoff game because in essence it is. Win, or go home.

Three keys to the Buffalo Game:

Darrelle Revis vs Terrell Owens:  Owens is on fire the past two weeks. Revis has shut down top wideout all year starting on opening day in Houston against Andre Johnson. Randy Moss twice. you get the idea. Tonight must be the same.

Thomas Jones vs Bill Run defense: Jones has to go for close to 100 Yds. and a TD against the 32nd ranked D. If not, that would mean the onus would've been on Sanchez. Bracelet or not, the Sanchise is being asked to manage things and keep the chains moving, not take 2009 into his own hands. 

Can we get an unsung hero tonight?: moments like these call for the unsung hero. The guy who wasn't a threat on paper, in game films. Let's look for a Brad Smith, Danny Woodhead, or perhaps a Jet interior defender like Sione Pouha tonight. The Jets need a big contribution from one perimeter guy tonight to help push things over the edge. If the QB isn't allowed to, or can't light it up, it will take, oh god am I actually saying this? 52 flashlights. This of course to quote ex Jet head coach and now ex UVA head coach Al Groh who used this reference in 2000 after the Jets beat Tampa with former Jet Keyshawn Johnson who mocked WR Wayne Chrebet that week before the game.

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Tiger Woods scandal - Rachel Uchitel press conf cancelled, deal?

The latest news in the Tiger Woods scandal is that nightclub executive Rachel Uchitel called off a press conference scheduled for 11:30 AM PST. TMZ.com reports that the reason is connected to an alleged phone conversation between Rachel Uchitel and Tiger woods and his management staff last night.

Rachel Uchitel

TMZ implies that the result was a deal to stop talking in exchange for money but that's not been confirmed as of this writing. Still, the simple suggestion of a payoff for silence will sully the already damaged image of The World's Best Golfer. But I believe his call may have had to do with the concern of sponsors like Nike and Cadillac, who are seeing the image of their brands harmed by the Tiger Woods scandal.

Rachel Uchitel is the first women connected to Tiger Woods affair rumors. After denying them, she was about to do what I predicted she was thinking of doing: talking.

Now Tiger wants the chatter to stop. I can't say I blame him but he has little control over this now that it's part of pop-culture.

Stay tuned.

Parnevik, who introduced Tiger Woods to Elin Nordegren, expresses regret

According to Bob Harig at ESPN, Swedish golfer Jesper Parnevik, who introduced Tiger Woods to Elin Nordegren, is not happy with Tiger Woods in light of the affair scandal. And while you may say "no kidding", it gets better.

Nordegren started working as a nanny for Parnevik in 2000. She was introduced to Woods in 2001 at the British Open, and then married him in 2004.

Jesper Parnevik

Now, what Parnevik said to Harig at ESPN is damning:

I would be especially sad about it since I'm kind of -- I really feel sorry for Elin -- since me and my wife were at fault for hooking her up with him. We probably thought he was a better guy than he is. I would probably need to apologize to her and hope she uses a driver next time instead of the 3-iron. It's a private thing of course," he said. "But when you are the guy he is, the world's best athlete, you should think more before you do stuff ... And maybe not just do it, like Nike says."

Ouch! Why he had to get off the Nike blast is beyond me, but I wonder what the 'swoosh' people will think about the Tiger Woods affair now.

Stay tuned.

CNN down 60 percent in ratings; John Klein should use iReport

I don't find this surprising at all, but CNN's down a dramatic 60 percent in viewers, while Fox News rules the ratings for November. As I've written before, and will continue to blog until the cows come home, CNN's failure to match its 2008 ratings performance, when it was number one, is due to a failure to change.

Or to recognize the similarities in aspects of change and react.

What was true in 2008 is true today: people are more than ever interested in what other people do. That rule of mine covers why the Tiger Woods story is so hot and why Sarah Palin continues to get press as well as why there's a new interest in politics.

The Internet has changed our expectations and made it easier to get information on celebrities. Now bloggers like PerezHilton make a decent living off the information trade about stars and the World's industrial culture thirsts for more and more information. It should come as no surprise that we expect this from television; it's why Headline News, or HLN, is doing much better than CNN. It's also why Fox News remains on top.

News is a story of people, not events. CNN forgets that. Traditional news organizations don't seem to understand that. How CNN can regain status is via the one underused resource it has and CNN President John Klein seems reluctant to develop: the iReport.

John Klein of CNN

People want to see people and the use of the iReport allows that. But CNN has cut back on its employment of the vlogging system and even downgraded its visibility on the CNN website. That's a huge error on John Klein's part.

I've said it to CNN and I've blogged it here: iReport's the answer for CNN.

Tiger Woods scandal - Woods in intense marriage counseling

UPDATE: Jesper Parnevik, who introduced Woods and Nordegren, blasts Woods

Tiger Woods is in intense marriage counseling. This comes as reports fly around regarding what his wife Elin Nordegren would get if she filed for divorce.

For example, if the Tiger Woods scandal (which continues with Rachel Uchitel's press conference today) ends with a divorce between Woods and his wife Elin Nordegren, the Herald Sun reports she would realize a settlement payout of $300 million.

But that $300 million figure has been floating around unsubstantiated, so I'm not going to use it as anything more than a jumping-off point for blogging.

The matter of a divorce payout is more complicated than the Herald Sun presents and Nordegren's already receiving a "stay home" gift. According to Chicago Sun Times Columnist Bill Zwecker, his sources claim that the couple is currently involved in intense marriage counseling and Nordegren already has a "hefty seven-figure amount (that was) immediately transfered into an account she alone controls".

For those of you math challenged that's at least $1 million.

Moreover, Zwecker writes that Woods original prenup required Nordegren to remain married to Woods for over 10 years, and then she would receive $20 million. But after the Tiger Woods scandal, she demanded and got a shorter term at a high amount. Zwecker does not report what that is as of this writing.

Tiger Woods with even more women? C'mon

Hollyscoop.com claims even more women are expected to come forward to claim their moment in the spotlight, er, say that they had sex with Tiger Woods. But now this is, to borrow a term now-President Obama used during the 2008 Democratic Primary, "Silly Season" because we will have to continue to sort through the garbage to determine which story is real. Oh brother.

I've got news for any woman who's part of the "I slept with Tiger" set. If you expect to receive the same level of media attention enjoyed by Rachel Uchitel, Jaimee Grubbs, and Kalika Moquin, forget it and for a very technical reason: the novelty factor is wearing off.

What we're seeing now is the public adjusting to a new image of Tiger Woods because of the scandal, but once that sets in, and it's happening fast because of New Media, the public's collective ear will not perk up as high the next time a woman says "I slept with Tiger Woods." The collective response will be a yawn and a snarky "So what" which will translate into no payouts for news, unlike the $150,000 US Weekly is rumored to have paid to Jaimie Grubbs for her affair story.

Stay tuned.

Tiger woods update - Rachel Uchitel‎ to admit affair Thursday

For now Tiger Woods' morning statement admitting his "transgressions" seems to have cooled the search activity, but there's still a lot out there. First, the Tiger Woods voicemail was released today and played all over including the CBS Evening News, which even took my Mom by surprise. She said "I can't believe that's on there!"

While the Jaimie Grubbs voicemail recording was spread all over , the Florida Highway Patrol released 100 new accident photos which you can see here.

But what's equally interesting is how nightclub executive Rachel Uchitel's name has sprouted up in searches again, and because information surfaced that Woods allegedly purchased her tickets for a trip to Australia. The National Enquirer linked the two in Australia at the same time but she said it was just coincidence.

Rachel Uchitel

According to the Kansas City Star, Rachel Uchitel's expected to admit that she had an affair with Tiger Woods on Thursday. According to TMZ.com, Uchitel said she "lied for him."


TMZ reports:

Sources say less than an hour before Tiger's accident, Rachel and Tiger were texting each other. Elin confronted Tiger and asked whom he was texting. She grabbed the phone and we're told she called Rachel to confront her. According to sources, Tiger and Elin began arguing and the phone broke in the process.

And that happened just before Tiger left to get into his SUV and drive off, which points to the ever increasing possibility that his wife Elin Nordegren did indeed hit his Cadillac SUV with two golf clubs.

Uchitel's lawyer Gloria Allred will make a statement at 11:30 AM PST Thursday.

If you're keeping count, that's officially three women - Jaimie Grubbs, Rachel Uchitel, and Kalika Moquin - who've had affairs with Tiger Woods.

Stay tuned.

Super-Hot Rachel Sklar Super-Mad at New York Observer

I created this video-blog for two reasons: first, because my friend Rachel Sklar  (well, friend in online media from my Huffington Post vlog submission days,  but have yet to meet) wrote a stinging column at the news website Mediaite where she's Editor-at-Large; second, because her take seemed to focus on the ridiculous perspective that at 37-year-old (as of next week) she was unattractive.

Before I continue, Rachel Sklar, you're just plain hot.

Rachel's angry with the New York Observer's Spencer Morgan, who wrote a rather mean-toned column entitled "Rrrowl! Beware Cougar's Young Niece, the Cheetah", about what he observes is a particular kind of woman younger than the hated "Cougar" but who is equally sexually-aggressive.

I don't know Spencer Morgan and I noticed that he's married, but my experience is such that men who have to place that kind of label on a woman hate women. What I mean is they have to categorize a woman for the general purpose of making a negative statement about them.

Think about it. When was the last time you saw the term "Cougar" used in a positive light, except when some guy says he escaped the paws of one, female or feline? That's not nice at all. By extension, it's not cool to call a woman a Cheetah, either, regardless of age.

The message I took from Spencer Morgan's ranting story about drunken exploits in Manhattan was that aggressive women are to be feared, loathed, and avoided at all costs.

I can't help but wonder if that view applies to women who are aggressive in the workplace or on the playing field? While Elizabeth Lambert has become the poster child for dirty play, I've got to admit I applauded the fact that it was a woman doing the punching instead of a man. Negative aspects aside, aggressive and assertive women are the kind most likely to stop a potential criminal in his or her tracks. It's about time.

I for one find such a woman extremely hot, and I'm proud to say I know a lot of them. Spencer cracks on women who sleep with a man then leave in the morning as if nothing happened; that's the fun story of my sex life. We call it "no strings" and Morgan's complaining? In my book, it's called a good screw and real men don't run around whining about women who start them.

Rachel, I'm not implying that you're such a woman; I'm just attacking the message of Morgan's work from my personal view. As the only male member of the San Francisco Chapter of WISE - Women in Sports and Events - I can't tell you how many men are just plain scared of attending a mostly-female networking event. But what's even harder to understand is this: aggressive women like men who fear and hate them.

I think this has to do with some women not being able to get beyond a message that they have to have a certain type of guy: black women have to have a black man where white women have to have a white guy, and so on. Fortunately a number of forces have come together such that the Millennial generation between 21 and 31 is almost devoid of such a concern; in my experience as of this writing, interracial dating for Millennial women is far more the standard than for women over 30.

Another set of forces has impacted the mating scene: the emergence of gay culture. In San Francisco (I live in both Oakland and suburban Atlanta) I've talked to a number of white women over the years who complained that the white men they were interested in turned out to be Gay. In fact this happens so frequently many white women assume a white man may be Gay if he's attractive and of means.

It's so much a part of our American urban culture, the concern found its way into Woody Allen's Husbands and Wives, when Judy Roth (Mia Farrow) observes that Michael Gates (Liam Neeson) is "single and not Gay" and that was in 1992; 18 years later, it's part of our cultural DNA.

So all of that spells confusion for a lot of women, especially older women. But it spells an America where it's easier to get a hook up, but harder to find a mate. So older women are just trying to make it as best they can.

Many women are adjusting to the new World around them by going after what who they think will accept them regardless of color, which is a fantastic development. Black women date white men; white women with black men, and all points connect in between. Cool. Very cool.

Some women get so frustrated with older men who don't grow with the culture or with them and fear aggressive women, they turn to....women. Look at Meridith Baxter.

So while all this is going on, some mean guy has to go and put a term on older women just trying to cope, calling them Cougars. I hate the term and it certainly does not apply to Rachel Sklar.

Rachel, this is for you: you're just plain hot. OK. There's nothing about you that is even remotely undesirable. You've got a great smile, lovely eyes and a playful way that just comes shining through, and your damn smart. Stop picking out or being drawn to men who can't see this (or who fit in a certain "box") and would even think of a woman of any age in a negative light such that he has to use a derisive term. Kick them to the curb.

Rachel Skalar, you're awesome and your best days are ahead of you. I hope this blog rant of mine makes your birthday that much happier. And when I'm in New York, let's catch dinner at 21!

Happy Birthday!