Happy Valentine's Day! Dating Doc shares his secrets

UPDATE: The makeer of the video below reports:

1) There are no Actors in the film
2) All events that took place are part of a Documentary Film in San
Francisco by Independent Filmmakers part of the organization at
(www.scarycow.com)
3) The services provided are real and are catered for San Francisco Bay
Area Singles (www.newdatinglife.com)

Today is Valentine's Day, one of the best days of the year. It is so because the very idea of Valentine's Day is associated with giving.

But today, with so many men and women trying to seek perfection in relationships (or the perfect person) when such a thing does not exist, many spend time worrying about who they didn't get a Valentine's Day greeting from, rather than enjoying who gave them one.   The result is a lot of depressed sprits for all the wrong reasons.

And some men, particularly in the San Francisco Bay Area, have forgotten how to approach and talk to a woman, if they ever knew how to. So they wallow in despair, silently cursing couples or expressing anger with men who aren't afraid of, and really like, women.

 That's where San Francisco-based "Dating Doc's Secrets to Attraction" comes in.

In the video below, Dating Doc helps this poor San Franciscan male out who just can't figure out what to say to a woman he's interested in:



OK. Now, I'll let you in on the joke. There's no Dating Doc (as far as I know). The video was sent to me by the YouTube channel NewDatingLife which houses the video work of Charles Gellman. All of the people in the video were actors. Even the website NewDatingLife.com is a fake service.

(Not sure what that says about our culture, but I'll think about it.)

But even with that, the video does capture a problem in the Bay Area: the lost art of verbal communication between people, regardless of the reason.

In a culture where people dump each other via text message, openly talking about anything is out of practice. The implications of this are the collapse of how a community of people relate, which keeps that group together.

The result is that no one really knows the other person at a level where trust can be established. It may also lead to the idea that people don't have to help each other, which means that a crime could be committed against one person, and the people in what should be that community do nothing about it.

You say we've already got that kind of situation?

To end it, we have to return to the art of talking. So on Valentine's Day practice striking up a conversation with just any one, for any reason.  Test yourself.  You're giving the gift of real community on a day when community and communication take center stage.

Or, they should.

Happy Valentine's Day.